Being in a unit, I have to buzz any guests inside. This is good because it gives me an extra level of security. They could not just rock up at my place anytime and bang on the door.
I am not sure how it would work for someone who lived in a house. However, I would probably casually state I had a male flatmate or something similar, regardless of whether or not I had one, just to dissuade any potential stalkers.
Also alluding to ‘someone knows you are in a booking’ is good.
Safety is paramount.
A stranger is coming into your home. Depending on the layout, besides the bedroom and bathroom, they may need to go through a lounge, or you may wish to first relax in the lounge room. I always have a few cold drinks available to offer.
Either way, keep every other door closed. They do not need to know or see into your personal life. For myself, this means if a client comes over, most of my things go into cupboards or get put away.
As I only have a studio, I try to have it looking as close to a hotel room as possible. I may have the odd thing out but as long as it does not give away too much personal stuff. This includes the bathroom.
That is just me though.
Never Leave a Client Alone
It is natural for people to be curious. If they are in the bathroom alone, they may have a look around. If they are in the bedroom alone, they may have a look around.
I am lucky living in a studio. I just leave the bathroom door open, and I can see most of my bedroom. The blind spot is where I throw my bed cushions so they cannot open my cupboards without it being obvious.
I had one client who I had had for a while, but it was the first time they did an incall to my place. Halfway through the booking, I had a very quick ‘rinse off’, while they were on the bed. I looked up, and I could not see them.
As quick as a flash, I got out, and they were standing on my side of the bed, looking down. Now I also had my mobile there, so I do not know if they just wanted to look at my phone but it does not matter. They were snooping and gave some weak excuse for why.
I did not directly confront him but put an obvious questioning look on my face and asked if he needed water or something. Things did get a bit awkward, but he got the hint.
It surprised me as he was a long time client I thought I could trust.
This may depend on price as well. I know some girls who do have a higher fee, but they are flexible with their time. The client may book an hour, but she may allow them to linger a little longer, depending on her schedule and the client.
I will be the first to admit I am a little OCD when it comes to things like time in general. Hence, for me, I tend to run on time but will give 5 -10 mins leeway.
It is necessary to keep track of time and to decide how your time will work.
There are a few key points to consider around time.
- Keeping time, first of all, is essential. So set the alarm or note the time on your watch. I prefer an alarm.
- Deciding when times starts and finishes.
- Is it from the hand over of the money at the start or after they come out of the shower?
- Do they need to be showered again before time ends or does it end, then they have a shower (if they wish)?
- Will it be quick sessions or longer bookings?
As it is a home setting sometimes, clients can get a little too relaxed.
This occasionally happens in brothels too. They try to “maximize time” by delaying, getting dressed slowly, chatting and so forth. Even after the buzzer goes. At least in the brothel, you do have a bell and a person to back you up if they try to take advantage.
It is your place. If you are happy to hang out, then work out how long that is, there is no hard or fast rule. However, you do not want to feel taken advantage of either.
Otherwise, it is best to have something organized after the booking. Even if you do not, say you do. It is easy to bring it up during the booking:
- Me: “So whats your plans for the day?”
- “I am taking a long lunch so maybe food, how about you.”
- Me: “Cool, I am meeting some girlfriends or a male friend/ have a hair appointment/ x reason here.”
It gives you a polite reason to say “Thank you, I enjoyed our time, but we will have to wrap it up”.
More importantly, you are also letting them know that someone is expecting to see you after they leave. Even better is saying that person knows about your work, knows you’re in a booking.
Even if you do not, still say it. Tell your client you do an “I am safe” check in with a friend if you wish. It is about minimising any chances of harm.
If the client knows you are expected somewhere, and someone is waiting for you, they may be less inclined to do something rather than if the client thinks you are alone and isolated.
Lastly, if I am going out after, I will allow 5–10 minutes at least between when the client leaves and I do. I prefer to be over cautious when it comes to my safety.
Remember until laws change to allow you to report attacks safely to the police, you need to do all you can to stay secure and minimize potential harm.
Note: Some of these tips can also be used by single women going on dates. Especially if you are new to a town or don’t know many people. There is no harm in letting a date think someone has your back, expecting to hear from you afterwards.