Ultimately that is preferred, but this is a delicate question. It has to depend on how comfortable the worker feels. I don’t think it needs to be shared straight away. People need to understand there is a lot of stigma around the industry.
- People doing sex work want to share and be honest but the discrimination can be harmful.
- It is quite possible the partner doesn’t know anything about the industry except what media and society portrays.
- While you’re just beginning, you won’t know how they will react and sometimes it can unexpectedly be violent.
If the relationship is getting more serious, then share when you can. There are a lot of healthy supportive relationships out there. But it’s a personal decision.
If the person has built up the courage and talk to their partner about what it is and isn’t, the partner may going through a range of emotions (especially if their knowledge is limited.)
Some partners are supportive from the start. Below is a great article written by one such partner for others dating sex workers:
The belowYou tube video called Every Ho I know Say So, is by Australian sexworkers sharing things we would want our partners to know about our job.
It was actually through my own experience of a partner, not understanding, that I put together a resource website calledwhich is to help partners find support information, videos and articles. Although it has expanded beyond that, helping us share and our partners to get support was the main idea behind it.